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It's never too late to create a better marriage. Learn how now!

Many marriages end because one or both parties don't know they have other options. You can take the time to learn Compassionate Communication and create something new and better together — whatever the form will take.

Often there is one partner who believes that it is “too late” to save the relationship. It is never too late! You can learn how to make things better in my free video series at ShouldIStayorGo.com

Sometimes, one party feels neglected or ignored, as their partner focused on a career or the children. Hurt can manifest as anger or withdrawal, and finally becomes a wall that seems insurmountable.

However, there can be reason for hope even in the face of quiet (or vocal) desperation.

If one person in a relationship is willing to work to save it, a new union can emerge. Perhaps your “first marriage” is over. It’s not about fixing it or settling for what you have, but beginning to create a new relationship that meets both your needs. Who are you now? What is important to you both? And are you willing and able to give the other what you each want and need?”

Talking with your children about your separation or divorce.

Linda’s Suggestions for Talking with Your Children about Your Separation or Divorce

Choose a time to tell the children when you can be together. If you have children of various ages, you may tell them at different times as your conversations not be the same. Whether you tell all the children at the same time, you should both be together whenever you tell any child.

Compassionate Mediation® for the Relationship You Desire and Deserve!

A Heartfelt Plea for Peace

Countless couples play out their emotional dramas without regard to the collateral damage they inflict on their innocent and loving children. Two people who once cared enough to promise to love and cherish “until death do them part” can also learn to fear and despise each other after years of pain and unmet needs.

Singlehood has an array of opportunities – and challenges. The opportunities for growth are unparalled. Often, the major challenge is seeing the opportunities.

Many of us think of singlehood as the way station en route to a relationship. It’s the bridge we cross to get to where we’re meant to be. It’s a limbo time of searching – but it’s often a search for “another’, rather than a journey inward.

Our stories, family healing

Our Stories

You might want to define yourself in terms of your “story” – what happened to you in your childhood, what is happening to you right now, who is causing you pain.

The more you tell your “story,” the less empathy you will receive from those around you. People tend to lose interest in the “yadayada” details of your life, and begin to shift their focus back to their own “yadayada”.

Self Care and Presence

Just for now

I can allow myself to just be here.

Just for now

I don’t have to fix, save, rescue anyone else.

Just for now

I don’t have to do anything except breathe.

And as I breathe,

I surround myself with peaceful, compassionate, loving energy,

and I am safe.

Just for now,

HEALING FROM THE PAST

There are people from our past who have hurt us in many different ways. Some of those people might be our parents, who may have done the best they knew how to do.

Although we want to forgive them, we wish we could tell them how they hurt us, but we are afraid of hurting them. Or we are afraid to anger them. We are concerned about the responsibility we feel to manage their feelings, so instead we suppress our own.

What if we could  speak for the parts of us that are still carrying the burdens from the past?

Self Care and Presence

The Paint Brush

There once was a brush, all bristly and new
Who wondered about all the things she would do.

She’d paint the skies red. She’d color seas green.
She’d become the best brush that had ever been seen.

She flittered about in a flash and a flurr
And wherever she’d go, she’d rush in a hurry.

So much to do. So much to create.
She could never sit still, and just dry up and wait.

Dearest G-d,
Please grant me the serenity to shut off my mind, with its need to accomplish, plan, finish, produce…. To allow for the flow of Your Guidance to lead me.

Please help me rest in the comfort of Your Presence and Support and remember that right timing is always working. That if I do what is in front of me from a place of inner peace, You will offer support in many forms.

There once was a lady who thought she was crazy
Her life seemed so dreadful and horrid.
Her head in a whirl, instead of a curl,
Was a “D” in the middle of her forehead.

Her work load oppressive, obligations excessive,
Her life felt just out of control.
She drove into trees, lost her wallet and keys,
Had a heartache no pill could console.

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