January is “Divorce Month,” but It Doesn't Have to Be!

Unhappy relatationships can be healed with Compassionate Mediation®.


I hope the holidays are bringing you joy.

I know, for many people, the holidays are a tough time because the ones you love aren’t showing you love in return. It’s not easy to feel happy when your spouse, kids, family members or even your co-workers are stressed and taking it out on you.

Maybe you’re the one having a hard time. Maybe you feel more like the Grinch and less like Santa right now. The good news is that you can turn this around.

If you (or someone you know) is struggling, over the next few days I am going to send you some easy tips for healing so your 2018 can get off to a good start.

January is called “Divorce Month”. Why? It’s simple, most couples on the brink use the holidays as the final chance to make it work.  When hopes are dashed, disappointment sets in and feelings are hurt, it’s like the straw breaking the camel’s back. Divorce seems like the only option.


Often, there are 3 issues hurting relationships, they include:

(1) Failure to communicate
(2) Inability to resolve conflict
(3) Lack of empathy

(1) Failure to Communicate

Everyone has different communication needs. I like to think of them as “currencies”. We all need attention, affection, appreciation and acceptance. But we want to be loved in different ways. You may want to hear the words, see the actions or feel the connection with your beloved.  To feel the intimacy you desire, you need to be able to safely and confidently share your truth — and feel understood and respected — as you allow your partner to do the same. This is what true intimacy is. Without it, couples feel adrift and alone. Perhaps this is what you’re feeling now?

(2) Inability to Resolve Conflict

No two individuals can agree consistently. Resolving conflict in a positive way is one of the cornerstones of a healthy relationship. If you are constantly swallowing your truth, staying quiet to “keep the peace,” withdrawing when hurt or lashing out when angry, these behaviors will likely sabotage your relationship over time.

People in healthy relationships need to feel that they can express their feelings without being rejected or judged. Your way of managing conflict may be different from your partner’s, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get along. Learning how to disagree and heal from fights is a core skill to finding a lifetime of happiness.

(3) Lack of empathy

Couples who fail to walk a mile in their partner’s shoes often don’t make it. In truth, the ability to see a situation from your partner’s point of view is vital.

You will not always agree with each other, but if you take the time to see if through their eyes, they will feel heard, understood, and connected. When they see the world through your perspective, you will feel the same.

If you cannot offer or receive a sincere, “I’m sorry” or “thank you,” then each of you will feel cut off and abandoned. One or both of you will want to leave or seek out an emotional or physical affair with someone else. It doesn’t have to be that way.

The good news is that you can heal all of these challenges.

If you (or someone you know) could use some support, here is a toolkit to offer FREE resources for relationship healing and transformation:

  • A Relationship Assessment to help you evaluate your current situation and make positive changes today.
  • Compassionate Communication Video Series that you can watch in stages, to help you create the relationship you desire.
  • The first chapter of my award-winning book, Compassionate Mediation®: How to Add Passion to Your Marriage or Compassion to Your Divorce.

 

You can get your FREE Compassionate Mediation® Toolkit at www.CMToolkit.com.

This doesn’t have to be the last year you spend with your beloved, or even another stress-filled time.

Learn a few new skills to help make all your relationships happier this holiday season and beyond.

You can celebrate 2018 with more peace, love and joy!

Sending lots of love and support!

Linda

P.S. Please feel free to forward this to anyone you know who could use the information and support. It will be your gift to them.